I've thought long and hard about creating this blog for the reasons posted below. I wondered if maybe I was being guilty by talking about another person who I have no personal knowledge of, even if it was to enlighten myself about the human mind and nature. Today I decided to throw the baby out with the bathwater and just do it. I'm hoping I will be able to do so in a tactful way, peppered with a little humor. After all, we can't always take ourselves too seriously.
I'm not perfect, I make no claims to be the best mother, wife, sister, daughter, what have you. On the other hand I try to do good and be good on a daily basis. I give people the benefit of the doubt and believe that most times their intentions are good. I also believe in karma, the saying," what goes around comes around", and "actions speak louder than words". I'm still kinda cringing a bit, hoping karma doesn't bit me on my butt. If so, I shall eat crow and make amends if necessary.
About five years ago I read an article about a woman who went by the name Dooce. The article was about how she lost her job for blogging about the people she worked for. This piqued my interest. After all, I had no idea a person could be fired for writing her thoughts and feelings on a personal blog. I visited her place and have been reading ever since. I found it really fascinating that somebody would share even a very small portion of her life with the rest of the world and how she quickly became one of the top mommybloggers. Am I a big fan and agree with everything she has to say? Of course not. Would I dream of ripping her just because she doesn't conform to my way of doing things? No way. Would I leave hate filled comments on her blog or someone else's blog? Hell no. I am smart enough to be able to disagree and state my reasons why without leaving a hate trail behind. Do I sometimes get upset that she closes comments? Yes, but on the other hand, it's her blog and there is a lot of hate out there. I read Dooce for entertainment, as do many others.
But she is not why I started my blog.
I've come across a select few other bloggers that held my attention that I continue to read and many that I've read once and skipped over.
Another blogger I found years ago was The Pioneer Woman. I found her very early on and have watched her site transform and grow leaps and bounds. Her style has changed and what was once just a housewife having giveaway contests to clean out her junk drawer of unused gift cards, and photos of her farm life has turned into a giant money maker. And she continues to give back to her readers in the form of giveaways and the prizes are very generous. Do I like her earlier style of writing better? Yeppers I do. But I still read, if I'm in the mood for what she's offering. I love those giveaways even though I've never won. I found out long ago that she is a wealthy woman. Did this make me care if she was keepin' it real or not? Nope. Was I enraged when her site became a marketing magnet and realized the money she made from it? Again, no. Do I give her kudos that she gives back to her readers. Hell to the yes. Would I dream of suggesting that she give more to her readers or certain charities. Absolutely not. It's none of my business. Do I click off when she gets (in my opinion) a bit to sticky sweet? I surely do. Is her motto of "keepin' it real" the same as mine? Not at all and that's ok. I read blogs for entertainment, not to drool over someone else's life style.
She isn't the reason why I started my blog either.
A few months back I was just clicking my Stumble button and happened upon a blog and like the curious bird that I am, I kept reading. I thought at first glance that it was just a critique blog of sorts until I kept reading. Then I discovered what in my mind was just a crazy, viscous person ripping apart popular bloggers. Seriously, the more she posted, the meaner she became. I mean really, you can have a difference of opinion without attacking someone personally, poking fun of the way they look, or inferring she's getting it on with someone behind their man's back. She claims the main purpose of her blog is to create a place for others to go that want to rip certain bloggers a new one but can't do it directly. She also claims to care about these popular bloggers children and thinks their popular moms over share and by golly, this woman is going to set them straight even if it means doing more damage to the children by what she writes.
Me thinks she thinks she's a internet super hero.
In all honesty I could have clicked off her blog never to return, but her mindset just had me baffled. All that I can equate it to is a train wreck. I just can't look away. Guilty as charged. And I read the comments, lots. What follows her posts in the comment sections are the creme de la creme. She has quite a few loyal fans that have the same mindset she does, and they will cuss you out and defend this woman like a rabid dog defending a fireplug. It's chilling. And they blame the popular bloggers fans of doing the same thing. I guess in their mind it doesn't count, and is somehow different.
I really tried to see this woman's point of reason and the only thing I can conclude is that she wanted a place for people to gather and comment when they didn't agree with certain things others blogged about. And you know, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with some one's point of view, but it's an entire other ball of wax to be so hateful about it. It's unnecessary and she loses all credibility as far as I'm concerned. I think if she kept her blog as just that, a critique blog, and civil, it would be a much better place. Sadly, she's made it what it is today and no matter how much back peddling she tries to do, it just makes her look sad and pathetic.
I've read enough of what she's written and never commented until the other day. I asked her why she said certain things and alluded to the fact that I find it hard to believe that she wants her readers to believe she's really a good person when she writes evil things like this. My only conclusion was that perhaps she was either a good actress or had her own mental issues going on. She refused to post my comment. I wonder if I hit a nerve.
So now you know, ChickenLiver is the reason I started this blog.
This woman would like you to believe that she is a charitable sort of individual and a loving wife and mother. She stresses what a good mother she is and how seriously she takes motherhood. She claims to have worked with mentally challenged people as well. To be all the things she claims takes unconditional love, forgiveness, empathy, understanding, and tolerance. She portrays none of these qualities in her posts. And so this is where I'm left to wonder. Is she just full of herself, mentally ill, a grumpy, jealous meanie who lives by double standards or just pretending because as far as I can see, she is far from keeping it real over there at her place.
ChickenLiver happens to have her radar set on these two popular bloggers I've mentioned above. Nothing these women do is right by her. Seriously. Whatever move they make, ChickenLiver is right there to tell her peeps how wrong they are. She surmises about every aspect of their lives based a what little they post.
My intent is not to be hateful back, but to try and understand who this woman is and what makes her cluck. There are lots of mental illnesses out there and I thought it would be a challenge to see if any of those illnesses describe her based on what she posts. If I can't find any that fit her, well, I'll have to assume that she's just not a very nice person, plain and simple. My plan is to take certain posts of hers and dissect them to see if I can find her point through the thick fog of hatred, and see if I can make sense of her thinking or at least find her a valid defense (mental illness) for her behavior. You see, I think she reveals much more about her true self than any of the top mommybloggers do.
